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Anxiety is a feeling that many people experience at some point in their lives. But for some people, anxiety can be a bigger and more constant experience. Understanding anxiety can help us support our friends and family who might be dealing with it, and be more open to different perspectives and lived experiences.

What is anxiety?

Firstly, it’s important to know that anxiety is not something people can just “get over.” It’s a real feeling caused by a mix of things like genetics, brain chemistry, and life experiences. Our brains can become somewhat overprotective of our bodies, and work to keep you on alert, even when there is not real danger or stress. 

When someone has anxiety, they might worry a lot about things that other people don’t find stressful at all. They might feel tense, restless, or have trouble sleeping. They might even have physical symptoms like a fast heartbeat or sweaty palms.

How can I help?

If you have a friend with anxiety, it’s important to be patient and understanding. They might not always want to do the same things you do, and that’s okay. Just being there for them and listening when they need to talk can make a big difference. If ou experience anxiety, let the people around you know- more often than not someone else in the room has felt the same way before.

It’s also helpful to learn some calming techniques that you can use to help your friend when they’re feeling anxious. Taking slow, deep breaths, doing some gentle stretching, or counting to ten can all help to calm the mind and body through a practice called mind-body connection. Bringing your brain back into focus on your surroundings can relieve symptoms of anxiety by showing your system that you are actually safe.

It’s important to note:

Another important thing to remember is not to judge someone with anxiety. It’s not their fault that they feel this way, and they’re doing their best to cope with it. Instead of saying things like “just relax” or “don’t worry about it,” try to be empathetic of the feelings their body is exerting. These phrases are also a form of negative self-talk. They are untrue and unhelpful when you are feeling anxious- instead acknowledge the significance of your emotions and manage them from there.

If you or your friend’s anxiety is really affecting their daily life, it can be really helpful to seek professional help.

Understanding anxiety is all about being patient, supportive, and kind. It’s not always easy, but by being there for our friends and family who struggle with anxiety, we can make a big difference in their lives. It’s okay to feel anxious sometimes because with the right support we can learn to manage it together.

Written by GUADS intern Kate, edited by GUADS staff member Emily